Really, I should have own better than to click the link. Anything on featured on Yahoo about “Eating out without the fat” was bound to be insipid at best, and this particular article didn’t even manage insipid. Broken down by food types, it doled out the same advice that anyone who has ever been on a diet awake has heard; avoid high-fat things like sour cream and cheese when you go Mexican, order steamed vegetables instead of fries, blah blah bitty-blah. There were a few others I had never heard, like to order first at the table so you won’t be tempted by other people’s oh-so-delicious high-fat foods, since eating those french fries will undermine your whole weight-loss plan.
The thing that struck me about the article wasn’t the over-repeated tips, or the ridiculous statements (for example: “Let’s face it, sour cream is pretty tasteless”), or even the prevailing assumption that everyone is, of course, on a constant crusade to be thinner. After all, these things have become so commonplace that you hardly notice them unless you are looking for them. The thing that struck me was one particular suggestion about giving up some food item, followed by “Now that’s virtue!”
But… it’s not virtue. There is no particular moral value in giving up sour cream, or cookies, or broccoli, solely for the purpose of meeting a societal aesthetic ideal.
Once I started paying attention, I realized that the language of dieting is all about moral value. Every Monday I sit at a lunch table full of women and listen to them describe their weekend in terms of whether they were “good” or not. They aren’t talking about whether they contributed to mankind or pulled the wings off flies, they are talking about food. People, women in particular, have been conditioned to view their own moral behavior in terms of what they eat. The diet culture has appropriated the language of religion and used that language, combined with the Puritan/ Calvinistic heritage many of us come from, as another tool to convince us to conform to the “fat is bad” concept. How many times have you heard a dessert referred to as sinful, as if enjoying something for its flavor and texture is contrary to the will of God?
If there is moral value inherent in food, I would argue that it is virtue, not sin. All foods, from spinach to Twinkies, have the potential to nourish life. There are certainly arenas where giving up certain food may be virtuous, like giving your lunch to a homeless woman or fasting as a religious discipline to draw closer to God. But sin is far too big, and too damaging a concept to be thrown around and associated with those things that God created to be good, particularly just to make someone feel guilty about eating them just to look “good” in a bikini.
I spoke at a women’s conference this weekend, and addressed some of these very issues – such as cravings = sin. The problem is that we try to eliminate foods from our diet using willpower and deprivation, neither of which are glorifying to God. If our endgoal is to be healthy (and I stress HEALTH, not weight-loss, though sometimes that is a byproduct) – then God is concerned with not just our goal, but the journey we take to get there.
Another problem with this article is that it perpetuates this oh-so-crazy control-freak way we, as Americans (and esp. women) have developed such an unhealthy relationship to food.
Like convincing ourselves that sour cream is tasteless, when it can really be the icing on the enchilada.
I have so much more to say – I think we’re on the same page…
How cool is it that heather spoke on something similar this weekend…just had to point that out. I could NOT live restrictions on what I eat. I try to eat all things in balance and i must say that I felt very GOOD tonight eating a bowl of ice cream
Thanks for these thoughts Erin, so many women have skewed views of their relationship with food and it’s refreshing to hear someone take a a look at the language behind the medias/corporations attempts to belittle and demean women for not matching up to the “ideal” even though it means deprivation in both mind and body. Food is meant for us to live on, but also for us to enjoy.
Exactly. I’ve posted on this before. The analogy I like is that of a plumber clearing the pipes–there’s no moral virtue in that, and yet we’ve made eating “heart-healthy” into not just a virtue but a veritable religion. If eating ice cream, etc., clogs the pipes–and that’s a big if, because the link between the two is not well established–then it’s not a question of morality, it’s a question of getting the right drain opener. Know what I mean?
Dude. I bow down to you. I hear women all the time talk about whether or not they have been “good.”
If I don’t continuously remind myself how brainwashed our society is and read entries like this one I find myself struggling to be happy. I must read the works of like minded people on a daily basis. I must! I deserve to be happy and in love with myself everyday!